Stop Being The Victim!


There was a time where I buried my head in the sand, lived every day in the ‘why me’ mentality and thought it was all happening to me like a good ol’ victim does.

Even when I started getting further along the ‘I am doing better’ path, I still had these why me thoughts constantly.

Every time something went wrong, or another panic attack would hit me upside the head. It was a why is this happening to me, what did I do wrong (anyone relate?).

My biggest healing? My biggest aha? My biggest shift?
Happened when I finally decided enough was efuckingnough and decided I wasn’t going to stay a victim anymore.

And that it wasn’t actually anyone else’s ‘fault’. It was all completely on me, no matter the reason for it in the first place.

That is when something completely shifted inside of me, and I began to realise, bad shit may happen but I was the one solely responsible for how I would handle it, let it affect me and so forth.
That was my true moment of peace and acceptance. My big AHA moment.

That was when things each day started to shift for the better, because I was sick of taking a woe is me number and sitting in the long arse queue.

So I ask you?

Is there somewhere you are not taking responsibility for in your life?

And are you ready to hang up your victim socks and claim your cape?

Here’s to flying our responsible cape to awesomeness.



  1. DutchIl · September 29, 2018

    Thank you for sharing… true words… (may I also say a lovely picture indeed).. 🙂

    “Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.” Shannon L. Alder


  2. emergingfromthedarknight · September 30, 2018

    I get this realisation a lot more these days. When others have really hurt us it can be hard to let go and realise we are hurting ourselves more my holding onto the anger or victim hood or pain. ❤


  3. righteousbruin9 · October 4, 2018

    Good post, Aria. When I was caretaker for my wife, there were many times when we had to face very hard situations. No one else was blamed, without cause, and we made our way through the muck and mire.


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