Haters

No matter what you do with your life – there are always going to be haters, those that want to put you down even when they should be your greatest supporters, and people that just plain piss you off.

It really will not matter if you are not doing much with your life, if you are playing small or if you are living large and stepping up in the best way possible. They will still always be lurking.

 

I had one such incident today where there were just plain mean comments on social media from someone who I would have said were among my greater supporters… I read it and I hurt, badly, I wanted to cry and lash out just so she could feel a little of what she just did to me. I wanted to go find a corner and just hide.

 

I allowed myself to really feel this hurt for a little bit, then I grabbed out my trusty journal and started writing. I got down every little hurt, thought and feeling that this brought up and got it all out there, there were tears and anger that all went out into that paper.

 

I then took a step back. And I got to the point where I was able to objectively say, okay I cannot change this person, the situation or what has happened so what am I going to do about it to take this hurt away and be able to let it go?

It was then that I stood in my power and gave myself a rallying cheerleader speech. Was I going to let this upset me and affect my whole day or was I going to use it to fire me up to keep going. To understand that not everyone thinks or feels the same or even understands and that is okay. It is totally okay. The only time that it is not okay, is when I allow it to affect me in an adverse way. When I am not able to take the positive lesson away from it and be on my merry way.

Don’t get me wrong, you need to feel the hurt and let it out so you don’t squash it down and create more problems in the future that end up being these big massive problems because you have just kept stuffing, stuffing and hey lets stuff some more. Feeling it is an essential step, but then it is up to YOU to take the positive steps to get out of the funk and spiral the events may have caused you. No one else can do that for you and it is the make or break in how it can affect you.

You have all the power my friend, you control your life and what runs through your mind. We are never going to have a truly easy happy go lucky life all the time. We are human after all and part of that is dealing with the good and the bad as it teaches us so much. Without it we wouldn’t know what truly happy feels like.

So use the haters, the judgers, the past experiences to fire you up, to give you the craving to create a kick arse life. Let them be the boost that you need to soar into the stratosphere of freaking amazeballs because you most certainly are, no matter what anyone says.

And you know what, it says so much more about them than what it  could possibly say about you.

 Keep being perfectly you..

 

Till next time… keep walking your spiritual path xx

 

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52 comments

  1. Deb · July 16

    When you get to the point where you make all negative comments work for you and build you up…then true growth is witnessed. Sorry about the haters.

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  2. Amitav Chowdhury · July 16

    I have been in such situations, have been abused for my writing and views. But my detractors and abusers inspire me to keep writing and I find them to be an amusement and I learn from them too, as to not do the things they are doing. Writers will face these oppositions and unsavory comments from time to time, but the key is to stay focused and write more. Sometimes, you have to just ignore them.

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  3. Donna Frasca · July 16

    So true!! How do we handle it? The first thing to do is just as you said, there will always be haters. Feel it and release it. The thing that helps me is that ALL those people who upset me, are vibrationally below me. The sooner I realize that people live on different levels, like an elevator, it’s easier for me to process. I just hang with people who are on the same floor with me 🙂

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  4. Thanks so much. The timing was perfect, as I had to men go off on my professional Facebook page, insulting me (calling me a fraud), after I declined to Read for one of them for free. While I was away from social media, they had a field day on one of my post, even including threatening conversation. I cannot tell you how timely this was. Again, thank you.

    spreading love-salicrow

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    • yellowwolf80 · July 18

      Ban and delete lovely! Glad it came to you in the right time Salicrow x

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  5. Carisa Adrienne · July 17

    Great piece ❤

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  6. D. Wallace Peach · July 17

    For the most part, I believe that people who are bitter, easily offended, resentful, and quick to judge (etc) are expressing their own fears and insecurities. Provided I’ve done my best to be kind and thoughtful, their reactions have little to do with me personally and I let those comments roll off my shoulders. My center stays centered, so to speak. Journaling is a great way to get perspective, sort through the emotions, and make choices about our responses, including no reply or reply with compassion. ❤ A lovely, thought-provoking post 🙂

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  7. calensariel · July 18

    This is a lesson I’m having a hard time learning. Beautiful post. And thanks for the follow. Calen~

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  8. Terry Lane · July 18

    Greater is He (Jesus) that is in you than he (the devil and his crowd) that is in the world.

    Hope you also like this warning prophecy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5xX7_XLdWo

    Stay strong in Jesus.

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  9. Soul Gifts · July 19

    Journalling is such a good way to work through things 🙂

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  10. Katie Kuo · July 21

    A wonderful post. I’m happy you could express it all out onto paper. It’s true – we can’t change others but we can learn to not do the same, and be kind to others. Xx

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  11. Simona Prilogan · July 21

    Great post! You are perfectly right! It even hurts badly when it comes from somebody you never thought. Forgive! Pray! Love! Look ahead… someone in the world will be there definitely to be your support. Only need to keep going in your truly way. Surround yourself with Love!
    Have a great time ahead. All the best! 🙂

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  12. Sandra J. Jackson · July 23

    Well said and you are completely right.

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  13. Nicky M · July 23

    Well done for standing in your power! You cannot write to please everyone – most of all you should write for yourself. You totally got this! 🙂

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  14. Terry Lane · July 24

    Inside is hidden treasure https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrBmuDGG3Ug

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  15. Whimsy Within · July 25

    “stratosphere of freaking amazeballs” I LOVE this. Great post, Yellow Wolf.

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  16. athling2001 · August 6

    Inspiring!

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  17. relationspdbeverly · August 10

    Yep, you can’t please everyone, nor should you even try to. “Amazeballs” – I love that!

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  18. dray0308 · August 12

    Reblogged this on DREAM BIG DREAM OFTEN and commented:
    I love finding little gems like this on Aria-Bella Rises!!

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  19. Reblogged this on KimKnight_Author and commented:
    Haters! They will always be lurking…. Feed them to your creative and focused self for dinner and keep pushing forward. Great post.

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  20. True George · August 13

    Those that we think are our greatest supporters also are our greatest haters.
    At least you know that person doesn’t have the best interest for you

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  21. quiall · August 16

    Very wise words!

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  22. KYAngel · August 17

    A very wise post from a very young person. It has taken me the better part of my life to finally learn all of this, and I’ve been around since dirt was real and we played in it all day long. Now I’m going to reblog this so my family can see how much I have learned today.
    This old dog is still capable of learning, but only after someone bangs me on the head to get my attention. Thanks for your words of wisdom that reinforce the talks I’ve been giving myself about letting go of the hurt.
    Angie

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  23. KYAngel · August 17

    Reblogged this on Kentucky Angel and commented:
    Wonderfully written advice about letting go of the hurt.

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  24. Sue Dreamwalker · August 19

    Wonderful way to view life and the pains we often take on board.. Sometimes the greatest lessons come from those whom we think are our enemies .. It is all a matter of how we perceive things and knowing each thought, each action creates a knock on ripple effect.. Learning to see the gifts given to us as we Feel and Release our wounds is helping us along our Spiritual Pathway as we learn to Negotiate through our emotions..
    I came via Angies Reblog
    Blessings Sue

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  25. Owlskin · August 29

    The trick is not to allow the haters in our lives to blind us to those who truly want to be there for us – not always easy to manage when full of frustration, disappointment or even pain. Thank you for this post, it was a timely reminder for me to see through a few dark clouds of my own 🙂

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  26. scatterbrain3 · September 1

    Thank you. I needed this today

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  27. ReVitellect · March 2

    Good point. Everyone has their own perspective. One person may like and appreciate what you do or what you are, whereas another person may not like or even hate it. Doesn’t mean we should not take criticism into consideration, but we need to be fair to ourselves and judge it according to its merit. Some people are negative only because they have something unfulfilled in their lives or it makes them feel better to tear down someone else’s prospects so that they can feel content with their own positions or decisions in life.

    Given that the discouragement of others can take a toll on us and can hamper our progress, I wrote a piece on how one can beat the discouragement of others. Do check it out 🙂 : https://revitellect.wordpress.com/2017/02/17/4-ways-to-fight-discouragement/

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  28. TheFeatheredSleep · April 28

    Truth♡

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