Haters

No matter what you do with your life – there are always going to be haters, those that want to put you down even when they should be your greatest supporters, and people that just plain piss you off.

It really will not matter if you are not doing much with your life, if you are playing small or if you are living large and stepping up in the best way possible. They will still always be lurking.

 

I had one such incident today where there were just plain mean comments on social media from someone who I would have said were among my greater supporters… I read it and I hurt, badly, I wanted to cry and lash out just so she could feel a little of what she just did to me. I wanted to go find a corner and just hide.

 

I allowed myself to really feel this hurt for a little bit, then I grabbed out my trusty journal and started writing. I got down every little hurt, thought and feeling that this brought up and got it all out there, there were tears and anger that all went out into that paper.

 

I then took a step back. And I got to the point where I was able to objectively say, okay I cannot change this person, the situation or what has happened so what am I going to do about it to take this hurt away and be able to let it go?

It was then that I stood in my power and gave myself a rallying cheerleader speech. Was I going to let this upset me and affect my whole day or was I going to use it to fire me up to keep going. To understand that not everyone thinks or feels the same or even understands and that is okay. It is totally okay. The only time that it is not okay, is when I allow it to affect me in an adverse way. When I am not able to take the positive lesson away from it and be on my merry way.

Don’t get me wrong, you need to feel the hurt and let it out so you don’t squash it down and create more problems in the future that end up being these big massive problems because you have just kept stuffing, stuffing and hey lets stuff some more. Feeling it is an essential step, but then it is up to YOU to take the positive steps to get out of the funk and spiral the events may have caused you. No one else can do that for you and it is the make or break in how it can affect you.

You have all the power my friend, you control your life and what runs through your mind. We are never going to have a truly easy happy go lucky life all the time. We are human after all and part of that is dealing with the good and the bad as it teaches us so much. Without it we wouldn’t know what truly happy feels like.

So use the haters, the judgers, the past experiences to fire you up, to give you the craving to create a kick arse life. Let them be the boost that you need to soar into the stratosphere of freaking amazeballs because you most certainly are, no matter what anyone says.

And you know what, it says so much more about them than what it  could possibly say about you.

 Keep being perfectly you..

 

Till next time… keep walking your spiritual path xx