With a New Year, it always brings up the various resolutions and ‘fixes’ you want to apply to yourself to be the best person you can be and to change something about yourself or your life for the better.
Now don’t get me wrong, I think it is fabulous to have goals, thoughts on which direction you want your life to take and so forth… What I don’t agree on is making it seem like you need to change something about yourself to be better, greater, like yourself and the list goes on and on and forever on if you allow it.
What if you allowed yourself to feel and believe that you are ok EXACTLY as you are right now – supposed flaws and all. What if you told yourself that no matter what you are ok and more than enough for yourself and anyone else for that matter? What if you told yourself, I LOVE you unconditionally despite anything at all? What if you looked inwards for that love and affection –rather than looking outside of yourself for it?
Don’t you think that those words are going to be more powerful than saying – I will be able to love myself if I lose weight, I will be proud of myself when I manage to stops those nasty thoughts etc.?
Have you ever wondered why those New Years resolutions just don’t stick, or if you do achieve them, you strive to change something else before you are totally happy or else you feel an empty elation for achieving what you set out to do, before then deciding you have to do something else about yourself next. It is because as humans, we have a great way of telling ourselves we cannot be happy unless we can change something about ourselves, or get this persons attention and so forth and that is what most of us choose to listen to. If you actually went soul deep and listened to your true self/ intuition – whatever you want to call it, it would say to you – I love you, you are perfect as you are, it is ok. .. Being able to say to yourself I am ok and I love myself unconditionally, despite everything, will be your greatest ally in achieving what you set out to do.
Because you know what – you are perfect exactly as you are. We weren’t made to be perfectly alike and have everything go as planned all the time, otherwise where would your uniqueness be? How would you know to enjoy the happy and joyful times if you didn’t learn it by experiencing the less than pleasant moments?
So how about this year trying something different and listening to that wonderful inner voice, rather than the chattering monkey that tells you all the stuff that isn’t perfect about you?
I know for sure that this year I am choosing to be ok exactly as I am. I am no longer going to say I need to get better, or be able to do this to give myself praise, love and the recognition I deserve. If things don’t turn out as planned – I want to say to myself – It is ok, you tried it and it didn’t go according to plan but it is totally OK.
I know that despite whether I fulfil the wish list of things I would like to achieve this year, I am going to have a fantastic year because no matter what I do or don’t do, I am ok and I am choosing to look at everything that happens this year – good or bad as positive learning for my path.
Why don’t you join me and tell yourself you are more than enough and ok exactly as you are?
And remember it doesn’t matter about what anyone else thinks about you or what you should do, it is what you think that counts. Once you actually really start believing that you are ok as you are – those people that want to change you, will change their tune as they will start following the same vibrations you put out there – that you are ok exactly as you are. YOU create your world and what is in it.
Till next time… keep walking your spiritual path xx