Something Doreen Virtue said truly resonated with me today. That our spiritual self has never forgotten to love ourselves. Our true self loves us unconditionally and your spiritual truth has never forgotten that.
I LOVE this! It is hard when Ego takes over and makes us doubt our beauty, makes us question our skills, we begin to slowly leak away our power and start standing only in our Ego self.
While I am sure your Ego loves that, Ego is not there to take control and be the captain of your ship. Ego is only meant to be one small part of your posse that helps you. And yes it is great to blame Ego for all the wrongs, the should haves and so forth, the person to take responsibility in this is YOU. Yes a big lesson I had to learn as well.
You are the one with the ultimate control and power, and it is up to you to make nice with every single role that makes up the specialness that is you and give them clear defining boundaries. Don’t get me wrong, if they have been used to running the show, you are going to have a fun time on your hands wrangling them back to where they should be – but it is necessary for you to have the best life you can.
Don’t get frustrated with them, it is essential that you treat them like you would a child as they do not know that how they have been is wrong, they only think they have been doing the best they can for you – and in tune with their limiting roles – they have been. Thank them, explain to them what you think or why you may not take the usual path. Firmly say the new way of being and slowly but surely they will come to stand behind you in support where they should’ve been all along.
Loving yourself isn’t waiting for the right and perfect moment to do it- when you have the right job, haircut, lose that weight. The magic in truly loving yourself – is loving yourself despite all your supposed flaws, because you know what?! When you start to love yourself, all these start to go away, get better or your blinkers come off and you see the real you. The real amazing you that is unique and you start to see yourself as the treasure that you are.
Once you start the process of loving yourself, everything else starts to fall into place. You find partners that treat you right, you find jobs that are perfect for you etc. The list is endless when you begin this way of being.
It can be super hard, especially when you are fighting a lifelong challenge of dislike and hate. It can also have come from outside sources and not just be from yourself, or be a seemingly never ending family trait. This is where you have to take back that power and say NO MORE.
You will more than often find when you look back at people who put you down, that it either wasn’t about you and all about the person in question or that what it came down to is Ego based reasons – they were jealous of you (even if they didn’t know why), they felt guilty and lashed out and the list goes on. It is time to let that go and not carry the burden any more.
It is a never ending process and life will surely give you some doubts along the way. Each time stop before you spiral and say an affirmation or a quote, a song line – anything that gets you out of it and back to love based thoughts.
You will truly start to find your life changing when you get back to your true spiritual nature of unconditionally loving yourself.
I will start sharing some processes, hints and tricks that I am doing to get back to totally loving me in blogs to come. I don’t claim to be an expert, but I am in the process of doing this myself so what a perfect time to come along the journey with me… Are YOU ready to make the change of a lifetime??
Till next time… keep walking your spiritual path xx